Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It
by Chris Voss
Recommended by 12 notable people, including Derek Sivers and Sophie Bakalar
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See customer reviews on Amazon →Chris Voss delivers a blunt, story-driven playbook drawn from years as an FBI hostage negotiator. You'll learn field-tested techniques like mirroring, labeling, and calibrated questions, all illustrated through kidnappings and standoffs. The value is raw, psychological leverage you can apply immediately to business or personal disputes. The limitation: Voss's world is adversarial, and his advice can feel manipulative or out of place in everyday relationships. Without an interest in his crime stories, the book may also feel repetitive.
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A former international hostage negotiator for the FBI offers a new, fieldtested approach to highstakes negotiations?whether in the boardroom or at home.After a stint policing the rough streets of Kansas City, Missouri, Chris Voss joined the FBI, where his career as a hostage negotiator brought him facetoface with a range of criminals, including...
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Recommended by 17 sources and appears in Communication Skills, Negotiation, and Best Startup Books.
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Consider Influence by Robert Cialdini. Recommended by 16 sources.
“This is a book that pulls apart the psychological shortcuts we use to make decisions, then shows how to deploy them in business contexts. The writing is clear and heavy on real-world examples from sales and marketing, which makes the principles stick but can leave you feeling like you’ve just taken a master class in manipulation. Its useful part is giving a language for the invisible forces that shape everyday choices. The main limitation: it can feel overly tactical, as if relationships are just a series of triggers to be pulled, offering little on building genuine influence through trust.”
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