The Dance of Anger
A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships
by Harriet Lerner
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“.@BreneBrown says she knows it's a good book when she throws it against the wall few times.. by that measure, this book I'm reading is really good, I've mentally thrown it few times against the wall but I'm reading it on my kindle so I'm trying not to. So many reality checks! | @ashleyjb33 @WalshFreedom @gtconway3d It's a great book. The concept of the "drama triangle," which was developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960's, is also really illuminating | And if you're a straight cis man who likes to argue with women and call them names or yell at anyone because you have a lot of anger, that anger is your mind's way of asking you to heal some of your pain instead of lose your sht, which is unproductive. Here's a good book. | Helpful for couples in that 'I?m screaming and he?s/she?s shutting down' cycle. | Helpful for couples in that 'I’m screaming and he’s/she’s shutting down' cycle.”
Source →“.@BreneBrown says she knows it's a good book when she throws it against the wall few times.. by that measure, this book I'm reading is really good, I've mentally thrown it few times against the wall but I'm reading it on my kindle so I'm trying not to. So many reality checks! | @ashleyjb33 @WalshFreedom @gtconway3d It's a great book. The concept of the "drama triangle," which was developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960's, is also really illuminating | And if you're a straight cis man who likes to argue with women and call them names or yell at anyone because you have a lot of anger, that anger is your mind's way of asking you to heal some of your pain instead of lose your sht, which is unproductive. Here's a good book. | Helpful for couples in that 'I?m screaming and he?s/she?s shutting down' cycle. | Helpful for couples in that 'I’m screaming and he’s/she’s shutting down' cycle.”
Source →“.@BreneBrown says she knows it's a good book when she throws it against the wall few times.. by that measure, this book I'm reading is really good, I've mentally thrown it few times against the wall but I'm reading it on my kindle so I'm trying not to. So many reality checks! | @ashleyjb33 @WalshFreedom @gtconway3d It's a great book. The concept of the "drama triangle," which was developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960's, is also really illuminating | And if you're a straight cis man who likes to argue with women and call them names or yell at anyone because you have a lot of anger, that anger is your mind's way of asking you to heal some of your pain instead of lose your sht, which is unproductive. Here's a good book. | Helpful for couples in that 'I?m screaming and he?s/she?s shutting down' cycle. | Helpful for couples in that 'I’m screaming and he’s/she’s shutting down' cycle.”
Source →Recommended by 5 notable people, including Brené Brown and Brene Brown
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Recommended by 6 sources and appears in Anger Management, Most Recommended Books, and Psychology.
"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging ...
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Recommended by 6 sources and appears in Anger Management, Most Recommended Books, and Psychology.
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“.@BreneBrown says she knows it's a good book when she throws it against the wall few times.. by that measure, this book I'm reading is really good, I've mentally thrown it few times against the wall but I'm reading it on my kindle so I'm trying not to. So many reality checks! | @ashleyjb33 @WalshFreedom @gtconway3d It's a great book. The concept of the "drama triangle," which was developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960's, is also really illuminating | And if you're a straight cis man who likes to argue with women and call them names or yell at anyone because you have a lot of anger, that anger is your mind's way of asking you to heal some of your pain instead of lose your sht, which is unproductive. Here's a good book. | Helpful for couples in that 'I?m screaming and he?s/she?s shutting down' cycle. | Helpful for couples in that 'I’m screaming and he’s/she’s shutting down' cycle.”
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