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Best Marriage Books

Topic List89 books curated53 recommendations total

Books on marriage recommended most by therapists and long-married couples — communication, conflict and intimacy. Plus the research behind what actually keeps partners together.

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Recommended books, ranked by how many of the 40 people behind this list recommended each one.

  1. 1Mating in Captivity6 recommendations · recommended by Brian Earp, Dan Engle and Dan Savage
  2. 2An American Marriage6 recommendations · recommended by Zoë Foster Blake, Michelle Obama and Bill Gates
  3. 3The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo5 recommendations · recommended by Steph Bohrer, Ali Abdaal and Jack Edwards
  4. 4The 5 Love Languages5 recommendations · recommended by Mark Manson, Patrick BetDavid and Jay Shetty
  5. 5We4 recommendations · recommended by Dr. Andrew Weil, Emma Watson and Andrew Weil
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Book cover for “Mating in Captivity”
Mating in Captivity

Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

6 recommendations

Recommended by Brian Earp, Dan Engle, Dan Savage and 2 others

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Book cover for “An American Marriage”
6 recommendations

Recommended by Zoë Foster Blake, Michelle Obama, Bill Gates and 3 others

Book Summary

By Tayari Jones, this is a close, emotionally precise novel about newlyweds whose lives are disrupted when one partner is arrested and imprisoned. The book’s strength is its patient attention to how everyday intimacy, career hopes, and social pressure fracture under legal catastrophe, delivered in sharp scenes and moral tension. Its main limitation is a slower middle that dwells on consequences and interior debate; readers seeking plot momentum or clear closure may find that deliberation repetitive or unsatisfying.

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Book cover for “The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo”
Description

Aging and reclusive Hollywood movie icon Evelyn Hugo is finally ready to tell the truth about her glamorous and scandalous life. But when she chooses unknown magazine reporter Monique Grant for the job, no one is more astounded than Monique herself.

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No coverThe 5 Love Languages
The 5 Love Languages

The Secret to Love that Lasts

5 recommendations

Recommended by Mark Manson, Patrick BetDavid, Jay Shetty and 1 other

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Book cover for “We”
We

Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love

4 recommendations

Recommended by Dr. Andrew Weil, Emma Watson and Andrew Weil

Description

Provides an illuminating explanation of the origins and meaning of romantic love and shows how a proper understanding of its psychological dynamics can revitalize our most important relationships.

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Book cover for “Marriage Rules”
Marriage Rules

A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

3 recommendations

Recommended by Brené Brown and Brene Brown

Description

Coupling up is complicatedDr. Harriet Lerners marriage rules are not. This marriage book provides couples therapy in a unique format perfect for todays world.

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Book cover for “Getting the Love You Want”
Getting the Love You Want

A Guide for Couples

3 recommendations

Recommended by Whitney Cummings, Derek Sivers and Julie Rice

Description

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, now fully revised with a new forward and a brand new chapter.Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying…

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Book cover for “The Art of Loving”
3 recommendations

Recommended by Brian Earp and Esther Perel

Description

The fiftieth Anniversary Edition of the groundbreaking international bestseller that has shown millions of readers how to achieve rich, productive lives by developing their hidden capacities for loveMost people are unable to love on the only level that truly matters: love that…

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No coverThe AllorNothing Marriage
The AllorNothing Marriage

How the Best Marriages Work

2 recommendations

Recommended by Geoffrey Miller and Rand Fishkin

Description

"After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now..."Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of SuccessEli J.

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Book cover for “And the Band Played On”
2 recommendations

Recommended by Michael Ian Black and Clara Jeffery

Description

Upon its first publication twenty years ago, And The Band Played on was quickly recognized as a masterpiece of investigatve reporting.

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Book cover for “Love Does”
Love Does

Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World

2 recommendations

Recommended by Sarah Drew and Noah Kagan

Description

Now a New York Times Bestseller!As a college student he spent 16 days in the Pacific Ocean with five guys and a crate of canned meat. As a father he took his kids on a world tour to eat ice cream with heads of state.

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Book cover for “The Mastery of Love”
The Mastery of Love

A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

2 recommendations

Recommended by Dounia Tazi and Aubrey Marcus

Description

In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fearbased beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships.

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No coverThe State of Affairs
The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

1 recommendation

Recommended by Chris Messina

Description

Iconic couples? therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns to paperback with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity.

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No coverHow to Be an Adult, in Relationships
How to Be an Adult, in Relationships

The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

1 recommendation

Recommended by Chris Messina

Description

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationshipsone that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and…

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No coverLove & Respect
Love & Respect

The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

1 recommendation

Recommended by Dave Ramsey

Description

A New York Times bestselling marriage book with more than one million copies sold!Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr.

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Book cover for “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

1 recommendation

Recommended by Mark Manson

Description

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage.

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Book cover for “Hold Me Tight”
1 recommendation

Recommended by Mark Manson

Description

Heralded by the New York Times and Time as the couples therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond.This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely…

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Book cover for “Stay with Me”
1 recommendation

Recommended by Jessica Parker

Description

This celebrated, unforgettable first novel, shortlisted for the prestigious Women's Prize for Fiction and set in Nigeria, gives voice to both husband and wife as they tell the story of their marriageand the forces that threaten to tear it apart.Yejide and Akin have been married…

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Couple Skills

Making Your Relationship Work

Description

Love takes work, but, when it comes to relationships, it pays to work smarter. Couple Skills, Second Edition, revised and updated from the therapistrecommended classic, will show you how to work smarter in your relationship.

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No coverEmotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage (Better Marriage Series)

Description

How to connect or reconnect with your spouse, grow together and strengthen your marriage EVEN if you don't know where to start.Do you feel something is missing in your marriage Do you feel like roommates Are you worried about drifting apartDo you ever miss the connection you…

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No coverIntended for Pleasure
Intended for Pleasure

Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage

Description

A classic for thirty years, Intended for Pleasure is an easytoread reference book that combines biblical teaching on love and marriage with the latest medical information on sex and sexuality.

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No coverThe 4 Habits of JoyFilled Marriages
The 4 Habits of JoyFilled Marriages

How 15 Minutes a Day Will Help You Stay in Love

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No coverDeal Breakers
Deal Breakers

When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away

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No coverHow to Be Married
How to Be Married

What I Learned from Real Women on Five Continents About Building a Happy Marriage

Description

Everyone tells you marriage is hard, but no one tells you what to do about it.At age thirtyfour, Jo Piazza got her romanticcomedy ending when she met the man of her dreams on a boat in the Galpagos Islands and was engaged three months later.

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Book cover for “The SexStarved Marriage”
The SexStarved Marriage

Boosting Your Marriage Libido

Description

Bring the spark back into your bedroom and your marriage with gutsy and effective advice from bestselling author Michele WeinerDavis.It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire.

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No coverHappy Wives Club
Happy Wives Club

One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage

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No coverNo More Fighting
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Book cover for “First Comes Marriage”
First Comes Marriage

Modern Relationship Advice from the Wisdom of Arranged Marriages

Book Summary

First Comes Marriage reads like a practical advice manual built from interviews with more than three hundred women in arranged marriages. It offers concrete, repeatable tactics meant to move casual dating toward commitment—rules, conversation scripts, and rituals pulled from centuries-old matchmaking practices. what works best is a set of pragmatic, culturally rooted heuristics for people who want clearer signals and faster commitment. The main limitation is heavy anecdotal reliance and a prescriptive tone that leans on traditional gender roles, which will feel narrow or dated to some readers.

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Book cover for “The Marriage Counseling Workbook”
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No coverThree to Get Married
Description

One of the greatest and bestloved spokesmen for the Catholic Faith here sets out the Church's beautiful understanding of marriage in his trademark clear and entertaining style.

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No coverChoosing Marriage
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No coverMaking Marriage Simple
Making Marriage Simple

Ten RelationshipSaving Truths

Description

Change the relationship you have into the one you want. Welcome to the Relationship Revolution! "Making Marriage Simple "is the accessible, essential road map to building a strong marriage in the modern world.

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No coverThe Meaning of Marriage
The Meaning of Marriage

Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

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Book cover for “Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love”
Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love

Practical Insights from John Paul II?s Love and Responsibility

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No coverThe Naked Marriage
The Naked Marriage

Undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love

Description

"Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame." (Genesis 2:25)Imagine a marriage with complete intimacy, vulnerability, transparency and trust. Imagine a marriage rooted in faith, friendship and mutual fulfillment.

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No coverBy Love Refined
By Love Refined

Letters to a Young Bride

Description

What to do when the honeymoon is over. This remarkable book shows couples how to transform stumbling blocks in their marriage into stepping stones of love. It reveals the beauty and importance of high ideals and offers practical tips to help couples live up to those ideals daily.

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No coverConscious Loving
Conscious Loving

The Journey to CoCommitment

Description

Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions.

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No coverGood News About Sex & Marriage
Good News About Sex & Marriage

Answers to Your Honest Questions about Catholic Teaching

Description

The author, a diocesan director of marriage and family life, answers the questions about human sexuality and marriage that he always encounters in the numerous Adult, audiences he addresses.

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No coverHoly Sex!
Holy Sex!

A Catholic Guide to ToeCurling, MindBlowing, Infallible Loving

Description

Common wisdom portrays sex and church to be at odds, yet studies show that Catholics have better sex, and more often. This witty, frank, and refreshingly orthodox book draws from the beautiful truths of Catholic teaching to show people of all faiths about rich and satisfying…

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No coverMarriage, Divorce, and Remarriage
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No coverSacred Marriage
Sacred Marriage

What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy

Description

Happy is good. Holy is better.Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply.

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No coverThe Power of a Praying Wife
Description

Stormie Omartian's bestselling The Power of a Praying series (more than 23 million copies sold) is rereleased with fresh new covers and new material to reach a stillgrowing market of readers eager to discover the power of prayer for their lives.Stormie joyfully inspires you to…

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No coverThis Momentary Marriage
This Momentary Marriage

A Parable of Permanence

Description

The chasm between the biblical vision of marriage and the common human conception isand has always beengargantuan. Reflecting on over forty years of matrimony, John Piper exalts the biblical meaning of marriage over its emotion, exhorting couples to keep their covenant as a…

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No coverBoundaries in Marriage
Description

Learn when to say yes and when to say no to your spouse to make the most of your marriage.Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.Boundaries are the "property lines" that…

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Book cover for “Eight Dates”
Eight Dates

Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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No coverEmotionally Healthy Spirituality
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature

Description

In this revised bestselling book, Peter Scazzero outlines a roadmap for discipleship with Jesus that is powerfully transformative.

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No coverI Hear You
I Hear You

The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships

Description

What if making one tweak to your daytoday conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life In this 3hour, conversational read, you'll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly littleknown) communication…

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No coverIf You're In My Office, It's Already Too Late
If You're In My Office, It's Already Too Late

A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together

Description

Hardhitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the front lines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve your relationship.If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this.

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No coverIntimacy & Desire
Intimacy & Desire

Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship

Description

Many couples begin marital counseling with Dr. David Schnarch with their sex lives in shambles, wondering what's wrong with them, considering divorce. One partner will complain that the other doesn't desire him, the other complains that she's married to a sex maniac.

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No coverJourney of Our Love
Description

Gianna Beretta was over 30 years old when she met Pietro Molla, and their relationship quickly moved from acquaintance to friendship to passionate commitment.

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Book cover for “Just Do Something”
Just Do Something

A Liberating Approach to Finding God's Will

Description

A Liberating Approach to Finding God's Will or How to Make a Decision Without Dreams, Visions, Fleeces, Impressions, Open Doors, Random Bible Verses, Casting Lots, Liver Shivers, Writing in the Sky, etc.Hyperspiritual approaches to finding God's will don't work.

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Book cover for “Love and Respect Workbook”
Love and Respect Workbook

The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Description

Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.

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No coverLove Worth Making
Love Worth Making

How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a LongLasting Relationship

Description

Winner, Nautilus Gold Book Award for Relationships and Communication.Can sex survive monogamy Yes, once you understand how sexual emotions really work.This awardwinning, paradigmshifting guide turns traditional sex therapy insideout to reveal the hidden rules for great sex.

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No coverThe Anatomy of Peace
The Anatomy of Peace

Resolving the Heart of Conflict

Description

NEW EDITION, REVISED AND UPDATED Leadership and Self Deception, The Arbinger Institute's first book, The Anatomy of Peace has become a worldwide phenomenon not because of a media blitz, movie tie in, or celebrity endorsement, but because readers have enthusiastically recommended…

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Book cover for “Why Talking Is Not Enough”
Why Talking Is Not Enough

Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage

Description

Why Talking Is Not Enough, written by Susan Page, author of the acclaimed bestseller If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single presents a novel relationship strategy based on subtle, powerful changes in your own actions.

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Book cover for “Wired for Love”
Wired for Love

How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Description

"What the heck is my partner thinking" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict.

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No coverYou and Me Forever
You and Me Forever

Marriage in Light of Eternity

Description

Marriage is great, but it's not forever. It's until death do us part. Then come eternal rewards or regrets depending on how we spent our lives.

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Book cover for “As For Me And My House Crafting Your Marriage To Last”
Description

The acclaimed author of The Book of the Dun Cow moves from his role as master storyteller to that of counselor and husband in this extraordinary look at the makings of a happy, successful marriage.

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No coverFor Men Only
For Men Only

A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Description

Finally. You Can Understand Her! Women: complicated and impossible to understand Do you love and want to please the woman in your life, but just can't seem to figure her

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No coverFor Women Only
For Women Only

What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men (Christian Softcover Originals)

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Book cover for “His Needs, Her Needs”
His Needs, Her Needs

Building an AffairProof Marriage

Description

In the classic bestseller His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses.

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No coverI Love You But I Don't Trust You
I Love You But I Don't Trust You

The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

Description

A guide to restoring trust in broken relationships from a renowed couple's therapist. Is my relationship worth savingWill the trust ever come backHow can things be good between us againWhether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of…

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No coverPassionate Marriage
Passionate Marriage

Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

Description

Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. With a new preface by the author, this updated edition explores the ways we can keep passion alive and even reach the height of sexual and emotional fulfillment later in life.

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No coverSheet Music
Sheet Music

Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

Description

With his characteristic warmth and humor, Dr. Kevin Leman offers a practical guide to sex according to God's plan. This frank and practical book is a perfect resource for married and engaged couples. Dr.

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Book cover for “Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage”
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship

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No coverThe HighConflict Couple
The HighConflict Couple

A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation

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No coverWho's Afraid of Virginia Woolf
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf

A Play (Scribner Classics)

Description

George, a disillusioned academic, and Martha, his caustic wife, have just come home from a faculty party. When a handsome young professor and his mousy wife stop by for a nightcap, an innocent night of fun and games quickly turns dark and dangerous.

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No coverWhy Marriages Succeed or Fail
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

And How You Can Make Yours Last

Description

Psychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own longterm relationship.This breakthrough book guides you through a series of selftests designed to help you…

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No coverCome As You Are
Come As You Are

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

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No coverEasy Marriage Counseling
Easy Marriage Counseling

52 SelfGuided Exercises to Deepen Your Relationship

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No coverEssays in Love
Essays in Love

Why Do I Love You

Description

"The longing for a destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life" we are told at the outset of Alain de Botton's On Love, a hip, charming, and devastatingly witty rumination on the thrills and pitfalls of romantic love.

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No coverInsecure in Love
Insecure in Love

How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It

Description

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious…

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No coverLoving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away
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No coverMarriage Meetings for Lasting Love
Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love

30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You've Always Wanted

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No coverMindful Relationship Habits
Mindful Relationship Habits

25 Practices for Couples to Enhance Intimacy, Nurture Closeness, and Grow a Deeper Connection

Description

Feel disconnected from your spouse or partner Struggle to keep your relationship fresh Worried that everything will end in heartbreak It's easy to fall in love.

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No coverSaving Your Marriage Before It Starts
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

Seven Questions to Ask Before and After You Marry

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Book cover for “The Act of Marriage”
The Act of Marriage

The Beauty of Sexual Love

Description

This updated and expanded edition gives a fresh informative edge to an already definitive book. New sections discuss "sex after sixty" and five reasons why God created sex, all supported by the very latest findings in the fields of medicine and Sociology,.

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No coverThe Normal Bar
The Normal Bar

The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal About Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship

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No coverThe Relationship Cure
The Relationship Cure

A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

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No coverToxic InLaws
Toxic InLaws

Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

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No coverUrban Tantra
Urban Tantra

Sacred Sex for the TwentyFirst Century

Description

If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can'­t be found in today'­s fastpaced world, you haven'­t experienced Urban Tantra.

Recommended Marriage Books by Mark Manson

Mark Manson recommends 5 books on this list. See all book recommendations by Mark Manson

Recommended Marriage Books by Brian Earp

Brian Earp recommends 2 books on this list. See all book recommendations by Brian Earp

Recommended Marriage Books by Chris Messina

Chris Messina recommends 2 books on this list. See all book recommendations by Chris Messina

Marriage Books: common questions

What are the most recommended marriage books?
Mating in Captivity, An American Marriage and The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo are the most recommended marriage books on BookMentions, ranked by how many people recommended them.
Who recommends marriage books?
Mark Manson, Brian Earp, Chris Messina and Ali Abdaal are among the people who recommend books on this list. Each name links to their full set of book recommendations.
Which of these marriage books should I read first?
Mating in Captivity is the most recommended here with 6 recommendations, which makes it the safest place to start.

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